dean bw

Manners

I spend so much time online biting my (metaphorical) tongue it's kind of depressing. And it seems like half the time when I *do* say something....
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I do that a lot myself hon. It's the way I was brought up. Sometimes though, I would like to vent on some people that are real bullies!
Me too! But the handful of times I've done that (not that my venting tends to be what most other people would consider such), it's only blown the whole thing up into an actual mess.

At this point, I mostly just disengage, leave, unfriend, whatever. Real life personal confrontations are bad enough--on the internet they tend to become an actual nightmare.
I know how you feel. Even worse is that this kind of stuff is hard to get away from, even in areas that you think would be safe from it. And although I'm mostly good about keeping my mouth shut, there are days when I'm so overwhelmed by the need to say something that I say something (I've yet to regret it just yet, but I know it's only a matter of time).
even in areas that you think would be safe from it.

Exactly! You think, 'oh, this person/place is safe', so you let your guard down, and then it hits you even worse.

(I've yet to regret it just yet, but I know it's only a matter of time)

I wonder sometimes if that really is the best way to deal with it--to simply speak your mind plainly (but not cruelly), and let things fall as they will. But I'm so adverse to confrontation that I suspect it borders on vice.